Internet Dating - Yay or Nay?

So I've been thinking about trying internet dating again.  I seriously loathe it and I have serious doubts about it even working. 

 

When I was in first year University the prospect of meeting people online and chatting was so fun and exciting. I had TONS of email pals.  Back then I wasn't looking for an online boyfriend so I just enjoyed chatting with new people.

 

I suppose maybe now I'm just old and cynical cause I don't feel that way about it anymore. I guess I've seen too many divorces result from online dating. Or it could be that my one serious experience online resulted in me getting my heart broken. Well whatever the reason is I've been resistant to the idea of meeting someone that way.

 

Since I now live in a bigger city I theorize that the pool of singles has got to be bigger. At home there was not many people my age left there. They had all left because the job opportunities were scarce. 

 

So now that I've been single for four years I figure that I've got enough space between me and my past and I should be trying again. Up until now I just believed it would happen when it happens all on it's own. Well it's not happening.  In fact, the number of single friends I have has quickly dwindled as of this year.  So I guess I've realized that it isn't 'just gonna happen'.

 

So the big question is where does one meet someone when they are my age and out of school.  Meeting someone through friends is often a good way however, as I've said I have almost no single friends left and they no longer know anyone who is single. So that pretty much rules out that avenue.

 

Work is out too because all the people I work with are in their mid to late 40s or older and are married or divorced with kids. Besides I've never been a fan of office romance.  Too many complications there.

 

I'm not a bar goer anymore.  Ok, who am I kidding! I never was a bar goer. So that avenue is out.

 

So as far as I see it the internet is my only remaining option.  The site I've been debating using is eharmony.com.  I like the idea that they match you with someone whom has similar values/goals/desires as you.  It beats the regular sites where you're just out there waiting for someone to call.

 

I have to admit that the internet dating thing scares me because you never know what's out there or what you might find.  I mean it has the potential to be dangerous.  I guess I just have to be cautious.

 

What I think I dislike most about it is that it ruins the idea I had in my head of how I meet this person.  I pictured it differently and it just destroys that vision I had. It's a pathetic reason but I'm sure every girl has a vision of how they meet this person and for me this wasn't it.  It just seems too lab test tube like and I am definitely not lab test tube like.

 

However, if this is how I find them then I'll endure it.  I'm really at the point in my life now where I want a serious relationship.  I don't need a fling or just a bunch of dates. I'm just looking for someone who is looking for the same thing. Someone to be with, share with, have fun with, travel with and eventually start a family with.

 

I think I'll give myself a couple of weeks to think this over before I decide.  I have a lot going on in the next two weeks so I could use the time to assess how serious I am about actually jumping in and doing this. So check back on September 21st for my final decision.

 

I just wish I had a date for the wedding I have coming up in November. I have till October 11th to find one or not.  It's so much more fun when you have someone to dance with and joke about the ugly bridesmaid dresses with. Oh wait! I am a bridesmaid! Ouch! Well who says I can't make fun of myself anyway? Well at the very least the person would have good company and get a good meal.